I See You and I Admire Your Grit

I see you every day and I am inspired by what I see. I spend a lot of time working with couples who are tired of struggling in their relationship. They know there’s more to what they’re experiencing, and they just don’t know how to get to the other side. That’s what I help them with.

Recently, I spent some time reflecting on my work with couples over the years. I thought about the ways in which they inspired me and what I admired about their grit and their dedication to make their relationships work.

Merriam-Webster defines grit as firmness of mind or spirit; unyielding courage in the face of danger or hardship. It’s the grit these couples have that’s enabled them to find success and reach new heights in their relationship that they never thought were possible.

I put together a list of the ways I’ve been inspired by the couples that invited me on their journey to better, richer and more satisfying relationships.

  1. When they made the commitment to seek help.
  2. When they sacrificed time and money to invest in their growth and success.
  3. When it felt hard and they didn’t give up on each other. They did it anyway.
  4. When they shared their most vulnerable parts of themselves in my presence.
  5. When I saw them comfort each other.
  6. When I heard one partner acknowledge the hurt they’ve caused.
  7. When they validated each other.
  8. When they really listened and made each other feel heard and understood.
  9. When I heard partners express appreciation of one other.
  10. When they held each other’s hands.
  11. When they recounted stories of how they met and I saw the joy the memory brought.
  12. When they encouraged each other.
  13. When they completed homework between visits and came prepared to sessions.
  14. When they didn’t feel like showing up for an appointment but came anyway.
  15. When they asked for what they really needed to be happier.
  16. When they were willing to try something new, something different.
  17. When they took ownership of their part in the relationship’s problems.
  18. When they showed empathy for one another.
  19. When they respected the relationship’s privacy and prioritized its needs.
  20. When they maintained hope above everything.

Relationships are hard and much grit is needed. There may be times when you feel like giving up but know that you are not alone. You may just need different tools to reach new heights and overcome the challenges. Let’s connect for a free phone consultation to explore your relationship needs and goals.

Kerri-Anne Brown

Kerri-Anne Brown

Hi, I'm Kerri-Anne and I'm a licensed mental health counselor in Orlando, FL. I help individuals and couples who are living with fertility challenges, perinatal loss, birth trauma and difficulties with postpartum adjustments. Please feel free to reach out anytime.


  1. Kim on March 7, 2019 at 12:55 pm

    Being one half of a couple is hard and its great that you recognize the work they put into it. Great job!

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