Best Relationship Books for Couples

By Kerri-Anne Brown, LMHC

Numerous books have been written over the years about relationships. Some have been very helpful in shaping the way that I work with couples and I’ve learned a great deal from each one I’ve read. Here’s a list of some of my favorites.

1. Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

By Dr. Sue Johnson

Dr. Johnson, who is widely known for her development of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, teaches us that the key to a lasting relationship is being open, attuned and responsive to our partners.

2. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

By Esther Perel

In this book, Esther Perel looks at infidelity through an entirely different lens and explores thought provoking questions such as why people cheat even when they’re in a happy relationship and what infidelity really means. She even tackles that idea of affair proofing your relationship and if that’s really possible.

3. Why Marriages Fail or Succeed: And How You Can Make Yours Last

By Dr. John Gottman

If you want to figure out what you’re doing right or wrong in your relationship, then this is a good book for you. Dr. Gottman gives concrete advice on how to make your relationship thrive.

4. Getting The Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

By Harville Hendrix, Ph.D

This book talks about eliminating the negativity from daily interactions between couples. If you want to improve your understanding of intimate relationships, think about adding this to your collection.

5. The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide in Strengthening Your Marriage, Family and Friendships.

By Dr. John Gottman

A helpful for all types of relationships, not just for couples. It provides some good insights about how successful relationships work as well as tools to improve the quality of your relationships.

6. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

By Janis Abrahms Springs, Ph.D.

I recommend this book if there’s been a violation of trust that stems from an affair. It helps both the hurt partner and the unfaithful partner better understand the affair and make decisions about whether they want to continue or end the relationship.

7. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

By Dr. Gary Chapman

This is a great book for understanding the different languages of love and how important they are for making relationships work. It identifies 5 different love languages that are spoken: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, and Quality Time. It includes a questionnaire to help couples learn their language.

What are some of your favorite resources on relationships?

Kerri-Anne Brown

Hi, I'm Kerri-Anne and I'm a licensed mental health counselor in Orlando, FL. I help individuals and couples who are living with fertility challenges, perinatal loss, birth trauma and difficulties with postpartum adjustments. Please feel free to reach out anytime.